It’s normal that sometimes we become overconfident with our partner, but as time goes by we feel free to say or do certain things that honestly should never happen.
Surely you’ve already done some of them and you’ve given yourself the regret of your life, feeling so bad that asking for forgiveness doesn’t seem to be enough. I may not be able to stop you from doing them, but I can at least warn you.
Talking about your ex.
There are certain comments about your ex that can lead him to make comparisons even if you don’t mention it that way, he will try to meet your standard of the perfect man and the last thing he wants to hear is how well your ex treated you. If for some reason you do make a comparison, be prepared to hear him complain about that comment in every argument you have.
Argue in a public place.
If one day you discover something that you might not like and that is reason enough to start a fight, never do it in a public place, the adrenaline doesn’t let you think about what you are saying and you are in a moment where you think you are absolutely right. People around you seem to give you more courage to insult him and yell at him, but at the end of it all you will only realize that you have made a big mistake. Talk things over with him, don’t yell at him, for everything there is a solution and fighting is not the best way.
Insult his friends.
I understand that there are some of his friends that you may not like at all, but at the end of the day, that’s what they are, his friends. You have no right to tell him who he should or shouldn’t be with, even more if this person doesn’t interfere in your relationship and in case he does, there are ways to talk to your partner that won’t make you look like a possessive girlfriend.
Criticizing his or her family.
If your partner has a gossipy aunt you dislike or an annoying cousin you can’t stand, you have no choice but to suck it up and keep your comments to yourself. No matter how much you dislike them, you must remember that you are dating him, not his family, and that expressing bad things about them can severely damage your relationship. If not, his family is the one who is attacking you, the one who should put a stop to it is him, and if he doesn’t, just tell him so that he gives you the place you deserve in his family’s eyes.
Keep him away from his hobbies.
Many times the only thing you want is to be with him all day, but you must remember that men also have hobbies, and if you ask him to stop doing them, he will not have anything to de-stress and that can affect them in the long run.
If he offers to miss his soccer game to see you, do not agree, on the contrary, encourage him to go and accompany him so that he sees that you are interested in the things he likes.
Telling him that you like someone else.
Do you have any idea what kind of message you are sending when you tell your boyfriend that you like someone else? Maybe for you that person is so insignificant that you don’t mind telling your partner which guy you like, and you start saying “crush” to make it look more innocent. However, the reality is different, from the moment you say it, your partner will start to draw conclusions by himself and none of them will be really good.
Questioning the relationship.
As a woman you get your moment of melancholy in which you think that he does not love you or that things are not going to work out, and the worst thing you can do is to tell your partner, as this can lead to misunderstandings. He will think that you are not sure about the relationship, that you don’t want to be with him anymore or that you are planning to break up. Never talk about it with him unless you really have a problem in the relationship.
And of course, you should never stop fighting for what you love.
