Engagement length provides some important clues about every couple!
Just as the length of time between the beginning of your relationship and the moment you happily announced your engagement matters, it seems that the length of your engagement also gives some clues about you as a couple, experts say. Maybe you’re the type who can’t wait to go through the stressful process of wedding planning, or maybe you want everything to be perfect and don’t spare the time or effort; either way, here are the most likely explanations for the length of your engagement:
The three-week engagement
Such a short engagement can mean many things, according to the experts. The most common is an unplanned, though desired, pregnancy, followed by impulsiveness (“we’ve seen each other, we like each other, what’s left to do”) or a situation where the marriage has been arranged or the bride and groom are religious and, in order to keep chastity until the wedding ceremony, the engagement should be as short as possible. A short engagement is not an indicator of the strength of the future marriage.
The couple who have set this engagement period will definitely not want to complicate themselves with elaborate wedding preparations. They will most likely want everything to be as simple as possible and this will represent them as well as possible. Therefore no long and sometimes stressful planning, no countless fittings in search of the perfect wedding dress. Expeditious and efficient, they get it all done in just 12 weeks, and the wedding, though not grand, will still be about them.
A six-month engagement doesn’t offer enough time for grandiose preparations, but the bride-to-be has time to choose a few wedding essentials (perhaps including some local traditions or customs) without going overboard. However, she doesn’t have enough time to spend countless hours on the internet or flipping through wedding magazines and second-guessing the wedding details. The principle adopted in this case is “dot dot dot dot”. She certainly won’t charge her future groom for countless hors d’oeuvre tastings, she’s not very picky and is quite easy to please, as long as her options are presented to her concisely, without any extra flourishes or digressions, so her future husband will be a very happy man.
One year engagement
It has been established that the duration of a traditional engagement varies somewhere between 13 and 17 months; during this time, the bride and groom-to-be most likely have plenty of time to plan a big wedding if they so wish, involve their families in the process, and can also call on a wedding planner to ensure that everything goes as they wish. In addition, a study showed that brides and grooms who had a wedding with more than 200 guests had a 92% lower divorce rate than others.
Engaged for a few years
This most often means insecurity and reluctance to subject your relationship to traditional customs. More than likely you love each other, and your relationship can be a happy and long-lasting one, it’s just that one of you (or maybe both of you) don’t consider marriage a necessity, but rather a stressor that you have ended up putting off indefinitely. Keep only your own opinions in mind and don’t let yourself be influenced by the pressures of those around you, because if you ever have a wedding, you will only do it for yourself, not to please others.