Having chemistry in a relationship is of course super important, but if you and your partner aren’t compatible, the chemistry isn’t enough. Here are 6 signs that you and your partner aren’t compatible with each other.
You don’t see the same future
If you’re thinking, say, ten years ahead. What do you think your life looks like with your partner? Do you have an apartment in the city and live lavishly without kids and a big, annoying plot of land to take care of? If your answer is yes, but your partner dreams of marriage, children and a villa, it shows that you are perhaps too different.
It’s really annoying when you think differently about things
No, you won’t think alike about everything – and that’s okay. But it’s how you deal with your differences and the arguments that arise that matter. Can you have a discussion about it and compromise to find a solution that suits you both? If you’re not compatible, it’s easy to start shouting at each other and saying mean things.
You are insecure most of the time
A relationship that works should give you a sense of security and stability. But if your partner makes you feel insecure and makes you doubt them, there’s a risk that you simply won’t work together. You shouldn’t have to feel insecure in a relationship.
You hate having them in your space
If you avoid being close or simply just being with your partner, it’s a strong sign that something is wrong. The person you are in love with should want to be close to you, not the other way around. It’s probably definitely time to break up.
You have different values
Yes, you can be together even if you vote for completely different parties. But there’s so much more you can think differently about. Is your partner a feminist? Are you vegan but your partner is a meat lover? Do they share the same family values? Talk about all these things. As I said, you don’t have to think alike, but you do have to be okay with not doing so.
You handle finances completely differently
Are you a real spender and think you should do everything you want right now, while your partner is more concerned with saving for later events in life? It may not seem like a big deal, but if a relationship is going to work, it’s important to be on the same page when it comes to finances.