Change is natural for all human beings, we grow and develop all the time. But what do you do if your partner is no longer the person you first fell in love with?
You wish you were with someone else
Was your partner everything you once wanted? But now you can’t stop thinking about how much you’d rather be with someone else, and how you could be so much happier if you were with someone else? Relationship expert and dating coach tells that this could be because your partner has changed. Greene also says that if you imagine what your life would be like without your partner, and it feels like a rock is lifted from your shoulders, it’s likely that you’re no longer in love with your partner.
You feel angry and lonely when you are with your partner
Do you feel more and more frustrated, angry or lonely in your partner’s company? If so, it’s an indication that something has changed in your relationship.
If you’re shifting between feeling very lonely to feeling angry because you feel so unhappy, it’s likely a byproduct of growing irritation in your relationship, Greene says.
Your partner is no longer the person you want to spend your time with
How much time do you spend with your partner? Or rather, how much time do you want to spend with your partner? If the answer is less and less time, Greene says this:
If the idea of hanging out with other happy couples is unbearable and you’re turning down social events because you don’t want to feel stuck with your partner, that’s a warning flag. If you used to want to hang out with your partner but you’re now looking for excuses to avoid them, it could be because you’ve stopped having things in common.
What to do if your partner is no longer the person you fell in love with
Okay, the fact is that we all change over time – but it can test a relationship. If you really don’t want to spend time with your partner anymore, if they bring out the worst in you, and if you often think about how much happier you’d be if you were single, or with someone else, these are pretty strong signs that you might want to break up with your partner.
But, change can also be good. If you and your partner have a strong bond, if there’s any particular reason you feel this way right now, and if you know deep down that you’re meant to be and see a future with them – talk to your partner! Highlight what you feel, and say that you want to work on making the relationship good and strong again. After all, communication in a relationship is everything. And if you’ve grown apart, you can of course grow back together, if you want to, too.