How can you tell that you have a confident, mature partner by your side? Well, not by these sentences …
Don’t we all just want a certain amount of maturity and self-confidence from our partner? That he is at peace with his feelings and does not play stupid games? Yes, we would certainly not let someone like that go so quickly! But at the latest, when one of these sentences is uttered in our relationship, we know: That was probably nothing …
“This is all your fault.”
Things aren’t going so well in your relationship right now? Congratulations, strong teamwork! A mature man would never blame his girlfriend alone for any problems in the partnership. Mature, self-confident men know that a crisis always involves two people – and that they can only overcome it together if both take responsibility for their actions.
“We’ll talk about that another time.”
Mature men know what they want – and can therefore say it, of course! Plans for the future, wishes for children, career goals? In a partnership with self-confident men, such questions are clarified.
“Let me, I’m fine …”
Boys don’t cry? Maybe, but men sometimes do – if they are self-confident enough! Mature men perceive their feelings, take them seriously and stand by them. In particular, they would never hide their emotions from their partner, because they know that being strong does not mean feeling nothing.
“If you think so, then so be it.”
Give in to have peace of mind? Not with a mature man! Self-confident people don’t simply avoid conflicts and confrontations, but clarify them – and do themselves, their partner and their relationship a great favor!
“I didn’t ask for your opinion.”
Not letting your partner tell you what to do – typical of insecure men! But a self-confident man appreciates and respects the woman at his side and would never refuse her advice and support. If others perceive this as small and unmanly, that is their problem, but certainly not that of a mature man.
“You’re being a total drama queen again.”
Just as they take their own feelings seriously, confident men naturally respect their partner’s feelings. She reacts very emotionally to an apparent trifle? Or has been in a lousy mood for days? Then there is certainly something behind it! And to find out what it is, a mature man in the relationship feels just as responsible as for physical pleasure satisfaction, an honest dealings with each other, a fair distribution of tasks … Everything that concerns two people who share their lives with each other.
“I can’t help it.”
Strong guys don’t make mistakes? Wrong! Those who never seem to be responsible when something goes wrong are not strong, but merely too weak and insecure to admit mistakes and take responsibility for their actions. Self-confident men, on the other hand, are not only self-critical and self-reflective, but also always accept and take criticism and feedback seriously.
