Breaking up with a loved one can be painful, but you have to learn to move on.
Parting from a loved one with whom you have created so many beautiful memories over time is not easy. However, when the other person feels that they no longer belong with us, we can hold on to something that no longer is or we can accept the situation with love. Here are seven tricks that will help.
Practice gratitude
Every morning when you wake up, think of a few things you feel grateful for. It can be something as simple as the comfortable bed you sleep in, your good health, the friends you have. This time of your life will be hectic. Sometimes everything will feel wrong and you will feel sad or angry or unable to think straight. On other days, you will feel free and ready to conquer the world. Gratitude will help you maintain this state.
Breathe
Learning to breathe in the good and breathe out the bad will help you navigate the murky waters of your feelings. Breathe deeply to clear and calm yourself and also before more difficult moments such as a date with your ex or going to court (in the case of divorce). Try the 4-4-4 model. Inhale for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 4 seconds and then exhale for 4 seconds.
Let go of expectations
Whether it’s child custody or getting your stuff back from your apartment, don’t have expectations. It will save you from disappointment. According to Buddhism, desire causes suffering. Desire to achieve a certain result is creating expectations, and unfulfilled expectations lead to disappointment. Embrace the unknown of this phase of your life. Whatever happens, you are capable of dealing with it. Trust yourself.
Enjoy freedom
You are free to do what you want, to travel and meet new people. Enjoy this freedom. You are opening a whole new chapter in your life. What do you dream of doing? What feeds your soul?
Learn to forgive
The end of a relationship can be painful. It can be just as difficult to forgive your ex. Start by forgiving yourself. When you’re too hard on yourself, you tend to focus on your own mistakes. Reflecting on the past is only beneficial to the extent that it will help you make better choices in the future. Learn your lessons, then set yourself free.
Be present
Our lives are continually disrupted by text messages, phone calls, social media. It’s not easy to be present. But think about what this means for you. For me it means meditation, yoga, a conversation in which I pay attention to the person next to me. Being aware every moment of the magic around me.
Let go of the toxic people in your life
You can’t make a toxic person happy, but they can drag you down. The end of an important relationship in your life is an opportunity for introspection and cleaning up your life. It’s time to re-evaluate the relationships in your life and eliminate the ones that are sucking your energy.