It’s not hard to have a happy relationship when you know how
When you start a relationship, you dream of things working out this time. You want to be happy with your partner and have that happiness stay forever. But relationships and relationships are so complicated that problems and difficulties arise at every moment. The most common causes of relationship problems are caused by poor communication.
The gossip, the unsaid things, the hidden thoughts, the disguised attitudes, the negative emotions that pile up because of poor communication are all prerequisites for a bad relationship, for a lack of happiness, for an overall breakdown in the relationship.
If you are wondering how come there are couples whose relationships flourish and their happiness seems cloudless no matter how long they have been together, there is a secret to this – good communication.
And behind it are 3 more little secrets to endless happiness in a relationship that aren’t hard to do at all. What are they?
Don’t try to read minds.
Making an assumption about what your partner is thinking and feeling is the biggest mistake. From it arise a bunch of misunderstandings, wrong conclusions and decisions, which also prompt you to wrong actions towards your half. Thus, you get trapped in a vicious circle that, over time, spoils more and more the harmony between you.
If you communicate openly and don’t try to read each other’s minds, but ask when you have a concern, it will help you build a sustainable relationship where happiness stays the way you want it – indefinitely.
It’s important that communication is two-way, of course. If you ask your partner what he or she is thinking and feeling but don’t get a sincere answer, that’s a problem too.
Don’t take things personally.
People have a specific magnitude in their characters that is part of their personality. This is the ego. It is present in different degrees in different people, and depending on this, reactions are determined their reactions in certain situations.
If you are the kind of person who is too deeply affected by trifles, your ego is easily hurt because it is too strongly expressed. You’d be surprised how much easier your relationship will go if you don’t get angry about little things and don’t take your partner’s every word too personally.
The truth is that people actually hurt themselves without consciously wanting to. We tend to look under the calf when our partner does something we don’t like or makes us feel less important because of his actions than we think we are.
That’s why it’s of utmost importance to distinguish between situations that really need a reaction on your part and those that are better to walk away from without digging too deep. This will help you be happier in your relationship.
Just tell the truth.
A sincere relationship is one of the most important prerequisites for happiness in a relationship that lasts a long time, even forever. Honest communication is the key to any problem, and you can convince yourself of that. Don’t talk in slurs, don’t hide important things from your partner.
Don’t respond with “no problem” or “nothing” when he asks you what’s up. A lot of people do this and it seems unimportant at first, but it actually has a huge impact on relationships and happiness in relationships.