Here are some tips to help you cope with this situation:
1- Avoid all contact with the ex-partner, it is recommended for a reasonable time to avoid all contact with the person from whom we separated, in order to mark distance and to form the habit of not having him/her in our life. It is very common to fall into the temptation to write to the ex-partner or to look for emotional support, but it is not advisable to do so, since time will show whether a good friendship could arise between the two of you in the future.
2- Seek support, either professional or from our family and circle of friends, it is very important to have a support network that accompanies us in this recovery process, that listens to us and advises us.
It often happens that in the stage of falling in love we move away from our family and friends, so resuming these relationships with our loved ones will be beneficial and reconciliatory.
3- Writing down emotions and thoughts, can be very therapeutic and helps to drain emotions, raise unanswered questions, doubts and reasons that led to the breakup. It would be an exercise like writing a farewell letter to the ex-partner, even if you know that he/she will never read it, simply with the objective of expressing everything we wanted to say and did not do at the right time.
4- Make changes, during a relationship it is common to accumulate photos, details of the couple, memories, gifts, objects as a symbol of the love that once existed, but when going through the stage of rupture and overcoming, it would be advisable to remove those objects from our environment, little by little, that is to say without being in an abrupt way that generates more pain. We can make donations or keep them, remove them to another place where they are not visible in our daily life.
We must let things flow according to how we are feeling or evolving, if we consider that it is better to throw them away and this will make us feel better, then let’s do it and that’s it, everyone at their own pace.
5- Take care of your self-esteem, the experience of going through a breakup can bring out the worst and the best of ourselves, so we must be very attentive to our reactions, because if we notice that we are behaving in a very negative, depressive way and we do not stop blaming ourselves for the end of the relationship, we must take corrective actions and help ourselves to overcome this grief and understand how valuable we are.
To do this we must learn to respect and care for ourselves, to understand that we deserve to be happy, to love and be loved and if it did not work out with that partner, then new and better opportunities will come, it is not the end of the world and we are not the first or the last to go through a breakup.
6- Create new habits, these types of situations allow us to make changes in our routine, which can be very beneficial and healthy, as well as give us the opportunity to meet new people. It is not easy to get rid of the habits and routines that we maintained with the ex-partner, but it is well worth the effort to move forward.
We can incorporate sports activities, go to the gym, since sport will help us to secrete endorphins and this will make us feel a pleasant well-being with ourselves, reducing negative emotions. It is highly recommended to stay active and distracted to replace the time spent thinking about the ex-partner. You can also pamper yourself and go to a place where you get aromatherapy massages, something like this will be very helpful.
7- Be understanding with your emotions, allow yourself to release all the emotions you have accumulated, if you want to cry do it, you need it and it is the only way to drain all the internal conflict that you carry inside, if you want to scream scream, you must accept what you are going through and express your displeasure and frustration, if that is what you feel, and do not judge yourself for it, you are a human being, with feelings and you must learn to live with them until the wound heals.
Do not make the mistake of trying to cover up the pain of a separation with another partner, give yourself the necessary time to overcome it.
8- Respect the decisions, maybe in a stage of depression or denial of the breakup we try to recover what we believe still belongs to us but please, do not fall into this mistake, you must understand that if the decision came from the ex-partner, his reasons for having done so, you must respect and have self-respect, however hard it may be, you must release the bond that united us to that person and let it free, because love can not be a possession or something forced.
9- Take your time, you must understand that a breakup is not overcome overnight, take your time, be patient and do not despair that everything will be fine.
