After several attempts, your quest for happiness has finally come to fruition. You have met a person and the appointments take place on a regular basis. Your joy in discovering the other person and sharing more with him (or her) is immense. For this to continue and evolve in the right direction, you must know how to act with caution. It is not prudent to want to skip steps for the sole purpose of moving forward quickly. Be aware that the durability of a couple depends on how the relationship began.
Establish a climate of mutual trust
First of all, for a relationship to have a chance to last, it must be healthy. Once again, self-confidence is essential. Knowing your true values will make it easier for you to trust others. You will then have a first-meeting-within-a-glass clear ideas about how attached you are to the person and how to express it. Are you too distant or too clingy? Is doubt too much for you or are you living the relationship with serenity? Be aware that lack of trust can have a harmful effect on your relationship (See dating). Indeed, the sickly jealousy will settle down little by little and you will end up suffocating your partner.
After a few dates, when mutual trust is established, try to listen to your heart. This is one way to find out if your feeling towards the person is similar to love. At the same time, try to figure out if it’s reciprocal before making a formal statement. For many people, expressing how they feel is a particularly difficult task. If you’re one of them, know that you won’t get anywhere by being evasive. Your statement must be sincere. If you are at a loss for words, show your affection even more with looks, smiles and small attentions.
Good communication and joint projects
After a successful declaration of love, the love relationship finally begins. But it is not yet time to shout victory. At first, everything seems perfect. But as time goes by, conflicts will emerge. Keep in mind that a lasting relationship is built little by little. So to avoid a break at the first arguments, good communication must be established from the outset. In this context, one must know how to listen to the other and respect his or her opinions. In case of disagreement, think about finding good arguments to convince. Being aggressive is a mistake. It leads the other person to close in on himself or, worse, to run away. Show that you are ready to overcome difficulties in a calm and serene manner to make your union lasting. Through your behavior, you must make your partner aware that you really care about him or her and that his or her opinions really matter to you.
After the attraction and passion of the beginning, the relationship becomes more realistic and a certain complicity settles down for good. You then feel the need to give more proof of love and perhaps engage in a more serious relationship. If you arrive at this stage, know that your love relationship has evolved. It is time to create a project for the future together. But caution is always called for. It is essential to determine if you have the same visions and if the other is happy as you are. If there are still things that need to be corrected or changed, make an effort together to get there.
