Often our happiness depends on how we choose to look at life.

When my ex-boyfriend announced that he was going on a city break with “someone” the sky fell on my head. We had started to be a couple for several months and our relationship had been on the rocks for a long time. However, the news didn’t exactly go down well.

My mind found plenty of reasons to be upset – sure, with me you didn’t want to go and feel hurt. I needed a little time to interrupt the string of negative emotions, to be able to look at myself from the outside and realize that my ego was suffering from the fact that its life could go on without me. If you are going through a similar situation here are four things to think about to help you overcome it more easily. Often our happiness depends on how we choose to look at life.

You are not in competition with him
Breaking up is not a competition of who can find a new partner faster. You need a period of time in which to sort out your previous relationship, learn what there is to learn and decide what you want in the future.

You can’t fix something that’s permanently broken
If everything had been milk and honey, if you were truly compatible, you wouldn’t have ended up breaking up. Therefore, you have no reason to regret not being together anymore. The fact that you don’t have a partner at the moment creates a vacancy that the Universe, if you allow it, will fill with the right person.

You may not be right as partners but you are right as friends
Your lifestyles and aspirations may not match. Maybe the bedroom isn’t what it used to be either. But as long as you’ve been honest with each other, you can remain friends. It’s wonderful to be able to be yourself around someone.

Negativity attracts more negativity.
Those moments when I let myself get caught up in the past, in a string of less pleasant memories, made me feel bad. Like I wasn’t me anymore. That day, everything went backwards. We attract what we are. If you want to attract the man of your dreams, then let go of resentment.

After all, what could be nicer than enjoying the happiness of the one who for a longer or shorter time has been there for you? Don’t worry, your turn will come. You decide when. You can choose to throw yourself into the arms of the first to arrive, just to be the first. Or you can fall in love with yourself, feel good about yourself, knowing that the right person will come along.