Choose to be there. Open your soul. Put your heart on a plate. Be kind. Be willing to listen, understand, accept, support, and forgive. That’s what it means to love genuinely.
This is what it means to love genuinely:
To truly love means to be there for your partner unconditionally.
Love doesn’t grow or blossom because you dress up pretty, put on makeup, and do your best for your partner. Love grows when you are there for him – you are available to him, vulnerable, and attentive to his feelings.
The best thing you can offer is your presence when you love someone. How can you love if you are not there? – Thich Nhat Hanh once said.
To truly love is to open your heart.
Love is a powerful force, but you cannot share it fully if your heart is closed.
If you genuinely love, you must expose the deepest parts of yourself. You must drop all masks and be vulnerable; show who you are. Share a little about yourself – your opinions, feelings, worries, qualities, and flaws. And in doing so, you don’t have to fear anything and trust that the person next to you would never intentionally hurt you.
Truly loving means being honest.
Being sincere in love is not just about not lying. It means being you, wonderfully imperfect.
You don’t have to hide because your partner will never know who they love. Honesty is more than not lying. It’s about speaking, accepting, and living the truth.
To truly love is to be willing to listen
The first duty of love is to listen.
Love must be heard to flourish. Unfortunately, too many people don’t know this and end up talking too much and listening too little.
Love is a conversation, not a monologue.
When you listen, you learn valuable information about the other person. You hear their concerns, doubts, problems, and their words about love. You can help, support, and feel the connection to their soul.
Truly loving means being willing to understand
Being willing to listen is only half of learning the language of love. The other half is understanding what you hear. And that means being open to a different perspective, sometimes even an opposite perspective.
Love is big enough and strong enough to handle different opinions and views. We each grew up. It’s also natural to have different views, feel differently, and want different things.
One more significant thing to mention here – choose honesty. Your discussions with your partner should not be straightforward but honest. They should come from the heart. Say what you need to say, not what the person next to you wants to hear.
Truly loving means being willing to forgive
Whenever two people are involved, there will be mistakes and misunderstandings. This is something you should always keep in mind. But the truth is that these are simply opportunities for love in disguise.
It is very important to forgive. Analyze the situation and look at the big picture without too much confusion. Forgiveness says, “This mistake is tiny; our love is huge.”
The truth is that people make mistakes. All people make mistakes. Don’t let a mistake ruin a beautiful thing; ruin an excellent relationship.