Here are some tips to help you find the special relationships you need in life:

Family isn’t always about blood ties. Family is the people in your life who choose every day to have you around – the ones who encourage and support you, who pick you up off the ground in tough times, who are your biggest fans, who are there unconditionally for you when you need them, who accept you for who you are and will never try to change you. These people are your real family – they are the ones who really matter.

Here are some tips to help you find and invest in these special relationships, relationships that deserve your love and attention:

Free yourself from negative people
Give your time to those who deserve it. Spend time with nice, smart, optimistic, positive people who think like you and have perspective in life. Relationships should help you, inspire you, motivate you. Relationships should not hurt, hurt, bring suffering and sadness. Choose people you are proud to know, people you admire, people you love and who love you, who respect you and who want to see you happy.

Accept people for who they are
Accept them as they are, with good and bad. In most cases, it is impossible for you to change them anyway and it is rude to try to do so. So stop wasting time trying to make someone what they are not. Instead of wanting to change them, give them your support and choose to be an example to them so that you inspire them nicely.

Learn to encourage
Appreciate the people in your life. Choose to be happy (and show those feelings) for those who are making progress in their lives. Encourage them for their victories, be grateful for who they are to you.

Forgive and move on
Don’t live your life with negative feelings in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than you think. Forgiveness is not about those who have wronged you, it is about yourself. Only through forgiveness can you let go of everything you feel, of what happened, and allow yourself to move on with your life. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you forget or erase the past, it means you let go of resentment and pain, learn your lessons and move on.

Choose to always be loyal to those who truly care about you
In a real relationship people are always honest with each other. If you want to have a deep connection with a particular person, then remember that staying loyal is not an option, but a priority. Loyalty is everything.

Give what you want to receive
Don’t expect to get what you are not willing to give. Start practicing the golden rule: if you want love, give love. If you want affection, offer affection. If you want attention, give attention.