Toxic relationships you need to be careful not to get into!
We sometimes stay in relationships that no longer bring joy to our faces and smiles to our lips. Many times, we think it’s just habit or boredom. But the causes can go much deeper, even though everything seems normal. As in the three types of toxic relationships presented below.
Relationship where you keep score
What it is: Score keeping happens when your partner keeps blaming you for past mistakes you’ve made in the relationship. If you both do this, the relationship turns into a battleground to see who’s tougher.
Why it’s toxic: Not only does it avoid solving the real problem but it uses past guilt and bitterness to manipulate your partner.
What to do: Each problem needs to be dealt with one at a time, when it arises and not after a year. When you choose a partner, they come with their past, actions and behaviours. If you don’t accept them, you don’t accept him.
Relationship on the finger
What it is: Instead of openly telling you what your partner wants, he gives you little signs so that you can catch yourself. Instead of telling you what’s bothering him, he finds ways to get on your nerves so that he feels justified in complaining.
Why she’s toxic: Because it shows that you can’t communicate openly with each other. A person is not passive-aggressive when they feel safe to express anger or fear in a relationship.
What to do: Talk openly about your feelings and desires. Show your partner that, although he or she doesn’t have to take them into account, you would be happy if they did.
What it is: When the partner has a grievance that they use to threaten the existence of the entire relationship. For example, instead of saying “I feel like you’ve been cold to me lately”, he says “I can’t be in a relationship with someone so cold.
Why it’s toxic: It’s emotional blackmail that creates unnecessary drama. Every little thing becomes a huge problem. When partners hide their thoughts and feelings, it leads to mistrust and manipulation.
What to do: It’s perfectly normal to get upset with your partner or dislike something about them. It’s important to understand that being in a relationship with someone and liking everything about that person are different things. Honest communication, even about things you don’t like, is the key to longevity.