You spend time on your career
Spending time on yourself and your career is important even if you are in a good and happy relationship. It’s best if you and your partner have the same view on how much of a role your career should play in your life. However, if you don’t, it will be more difficult.
If you want to work late and your partner doesn’t, you have to compromise. If you can’t find a compromise that works for both of you, it might be better not to be together.
You want to live in different places
Is your dream to live in a three-room apartment in the city while your partner wants to move to the country? Yes, you can compromise here too. But if you feel you’re compromising more than you really want to, it might be a good idea to think twice about whether it’s worth it.
You don’t trust each other
Trust is everything in a relationship. However, trust issues in particular are common in relationships. Do you sense owls in the moss with your partner? Then talk to them. Pretend the problem doesn’t exist or try to control what the other person does and things will never get better.
Then it might even be better to maybe break up if you can’t communicate.
You want to do romantic things – your partner wants to save money
Money, money, money – the ever-sensitive issue. Are you the kind of person who wants to go out to eat several times a week while your partner would rather save money for a shared apartment? This is where the alarm bells ring and you have to compromise.
If you can’t agree, chances are you’ll both be better off going your separate ways.
You fantasise about being unfaithful
Do you have fantasies about someone other than your partner? Fantasies about being unfaithful in secret? Then it’s highly likely that you will be too. In that case, it’s better to end the relationship and become single.
You’re not sure if you’ve found “the one”
If you have doubts about whether you are right for each other, it might be a good idea to sit down and write a list of pros and cons.
Then you can weigh them against each other and see what weighs more heavily. Are you head over heels in love but feel like you’re headed towards completely different goals in life? It’s not fun.
But don’t forget to always trust your gut!