Leaving your man for another: is this really a good idea?

How did you get here?

By reading this article, you are already taking a big step towards a new life. But before you even make any decisions, you need to ask yourself the right questions. Do you know exactly why you’ve reached this point? Why do you have views on other men and this man in particular? Are you no longer happy? I know, these questions may seem very difficult to answer, but you have to find answers before you can continue your reading. In order to be able to advise you effectively, I need you to find the exact reasons that pushed you into this spiral.

Be sincere with yourself

Ladies, let me tell you that wanting to leave your man for another is not a good sign. Indeed, if another man managed to get into your heart, it is because you were not totally honest with your boyfriend and especially with yourself. So before I even continue reading this article, I will ask you to clarify this situation, without lying to you. This is an important choice you are going to make, make sure you never regret it. So face the truth and don’t try to hide behind excuses. You are in a better position than I am to find an explanation for this whole situation.

Take stock of your relationship

Do you have a fulfilled life and are you happy in love? Then why would you go elsewhere? Indeed, if you are in this situation right now it is without a doubt because something is wrong in your relationship. But what is it? I won’t be able to answer this question for you. So start making a little assessment of your relationship:

What are the things that have changed since the beginning of your history?

It goes without saying that the stories that have lasted a few months and those that have lasted years are not at the same level. So remember the first few weeks of your relationship. You were happy and in love with this man. But since then, what has changed? It may be that he no longer pays much attention to your needs, that he doesn’t have much time left to devote to you, that he has deceived you and that until today this has still left traces in your relationship…In short, there may be many things that have changed (evolved) from the beginning to now.

What are the things that are missing to make you happy?

They are superimpositions of details that make a woman happy. So, if a piece is missing, happiness can fade quickly. It is therefore essential to find that missing piece. Are you spending less and less time together? Do you have the impression that he no longer says sweet words to you or that he no longer makes the effort to prove to you how much he loves you? Would you like to do more activities as a couple?

Fix what can be fixed

Only when you have found the gaps in your relationship can you see whether or not things can be fixed. In some cases, these are minor things that require only a little effort on your part. If they are small details that can be corrected quickly, there is no apparent reason to look elsewhere. On the other hand, if they are persistent problems that won’t find other solutions, it’s perfectly normal if you want to write a new story with a new person who will be better able to make you smile.

Make the right decision

Now that you know exactly why you’re in this situation and how your relationship has changed the way you see things, it’s time to make a decision. I want to warn you from the beginning that it won’t be easy. It will take a few months before you can find the right choice. In fact, I would advise you not to rush. Whether you are certain that the other man will be able to satisfy you better or you are still hesitating because you are afraid of the repercussions, if you are no longer happy in your relationship, leave! Of course, this decision is very painful, but don’t get trapped in a story that doesn’t make you grow up. Even if the man who caught your eye is not as ready to commit, always make the decision that will bring you happiness.

Leaving one man for another: how to live this situation easily

Leaving everything to live with another man is not like in the movies. You’re not going to have a happy life one week after you’ve left everything. And just because you’re happy today doesn’t mean you’ll be happy for the rest of your life. It is essential to realize that turning the page cannot be done overnight. If it were that simple, believe me, you wouldn’t even be reading this advice. In order to face this “fight” within the norms, I suggest that you discover the fundamental stages of this break-up and all that you need to do over time to come out a winner.

1- The break-up

In order to face the rupture properly, I propose to take the facts in three steps:

First step: prepare the ground

That’s it! You are finally decided to break up. This is without a doubt the most difficult step of all. I will then ask you to be as honest as possible with the man you are going to leave. It won’t be necessary to write down everything you have to say if you plan to tell him about the situation in front of him. Even if you rehearse for hours, the chances of repeating the exact same sentences are minimal. Also, you will never be able to anticipate what is going to happen. You just need to tell her things in a natural and clear way. Don’t beat around the bush, as this will only make things more complicated. Be careful! You don’t have to tell him that there is another man.

Step Two: Answer the whys

No matter how you present things, he’s always going to want to ask you “why? That’s when things get a little more complicated. You have a choice between telling him the truth or preserving him about this other man. I’m not forcing you to take the first or second alternative. But if you really want to be honest before you leave him, you can tell him. Tell him in simple words that you’ve met someone else and that before you go any further with him, you’d rather end the relationship.

Step Three: Answer the questions about the new man.

If you have made the decision to tell him about your meeting, he will probably want to know a little more. But again, you don’t have to answer all his questions. This is your life and you have the right to keep all this information to yourself. Whatever you decide to do, it’s important to make it clear to him that your relationship is over. Don’t be ambiguous, because he may take things a different way. And in case your ex knows the man you fell for, I’ll ask you not to hide it from him. Sooner or later he will find out. And I might as well tell you that if he finds out from someone else (or from himself) it will be a delicate situation.

After the break-up

You are free to live a new life. But in order to be fully fulfilled, you will have to:

Take a bite out of life

Live your life to the fullest! Even if the two men know each other, that’s no reason to stop doing certain activities or banish certain friends from your friends list. Since you were completely honest with him, there is no reason why you shouldn’t invest in your new relationship. If you have to be in the same room as your ex, try not to get too close to your new boyfriend yet. The days after the breakup are still pretty tricky.

Finding a way to be happy

All I expect from you is that you are happy. That is why I have asked you to think carefully before making your decision. You have left your lover for a man who will be better able to satisfy you, so why deprive yourself of him? You may feel guilty, but don’t let that stop you from being happy.

Coping with a possible move

If you have already lived with your ex, the question of moving may be a problem. Indeed, it is essential that you each have your own home. While your ex is finding a place to live, consider living with a friend or with your new boyfriend. If you are the one who has to look for another house, do it quickly. Avoid continuing to live together when you have decided to leave. It is useless and unhealthy.

Do not regret

No matter what happens next, you should never regret your choice. If you ended up leaving your ex, it’s because it wasn’t working out well. And even if the new boyfriend didn’t stay in your life for long, regret won’t do you any good. So it’s important to never go back. Your ex also deserves to live a new life. If you come back after a disappointment, you will ruin his life and yours too. So whatever the outcome with the new Jules, always keep going.

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