Tip #1: Communicate to understand each other
This is the first thing to do. You may have a misconception about his indecision. It may indeed be right in character and that doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about you. His hesitation may come from his past love affair, from a complicated history that makes him hesitant to give back all his confidence at the beginning of a relationship.
That’s why it is absolutely necessary to try to understand him and to communicate with him to know who he really is and what he wants. Get to know his character and give him some time. Each person moves at his or her own pace, and it can be healthy not to get too carried away at the beginning of a relationship.
Tip #2 for dealing with a man who is undecided: Be Patient
Patience is not necessarily easy to master. It is indeed sometimes complicated to wait, especially when you have a crush on someone. All the more so if the person in front of you is much more measured in his behaviour. But if you think it’s worth it and the only thing to do is be patient because he needs time, do it. It would be a shame to ruin everything because of your rush.
That’s why it is absolutely necessary to try to understand him and to communicate with him to know who he really is and what he wants. Get to know his character and give him some time. Each person moves at his or her own pace, and it can be healthy not to get too carried away at the beginning of a relationship.
Tip #3 for dealing with a man who is undecided: Be Patient
Patience is not necessarily easy to master. It is indeed sometimes complicated to wait, especially when you have a crush on someone. All the more so if the person in front of you is much more measured in his behaviour. But if you think it’s worth it and the only thing to do is be patient because he needs time, do it. It would be a shame to ruin everything because of your rush.
How to behave with an indecisive man? Take distance
So take some distance on your side as well, it might make him react. For example, send fewer messages, call him less, be a little less attentive too. Seeing you distance yourself may make him aware of his own behavior and make him react. That’s the purpose of radio silence, to elicit a reaction from him. And it will allow you to know exactly what’s going on, to see more clearly and then know what to do based on his involvement or indecision.
Tip #4 for dealing with a man who is indecisive: Don’t forget yourself
You think this story is worthwhile and you want to see it evolve? It is therefore to your credit to be patient and listen, but be careful not to forget yourself in all this. Its distance or coldness sometimes hurts you and you live this situation more and more badly. Don’t stay like that.
Your nature is not to be like that. You need kisses and hugs, those indispensable gestures of tenderness, small loving attentions and proofs of love to come. So tell him. You can’t sacrifice your desires and needs for the sake of her character and way of being. A relationship must be balanced for it to work. If it doesn’t, think of yourself and your well-being. Love should not be a sacrifice.
Tip #5: Be Firm
You have followed all the previous advice and yet, unfortunately, you see little change. So obviously it wasn’t enough, you’re going to have to be firmer. Sometimes communication and patience are no longer enough, you have to step up a gear. Be firm. You may also be able to “bluff” a little. This will be a great way to find out if he cares about you and your story.
Move away from him a little, make him wait, show some distance in turn. In short, imitate his behavior. You’ll quickly see how he reacts and whether your relationship is worthwhile and can last. If his behaviour changes, he comes back to you and the distance fades, you will have been right to make him react. If his behaviour doesn’t change, you will unfortunately have the answer to your question. It is up to you to see if you can continue to live in a relationship that is unbalanced and lacking in reciprocity.
Tip #6: How to behave with a man who is undecided? Take a break
In spite of everything you may have done, his behaviour does not change. You feel more and more powerless in the face of this and you have no choice but to make a decision. Have one last conversation with him and express your dismay. He needs to understand that you don’t want your story to end, but his behaviour needs to change. That you are suffering from this situation.
Take some time for yourself, with family or friends. Be aware that taking a break from the relationship can be fatal. However, you are aware that there are no other possible solutions and that you finally have no choice. This will have consequences if he takes it badly and doesn’t question himself. But if the opposite happens, it will give your story a new lease of life and you will be able to start again on a good footing. Otherwise, you will have done everything you can to give the relationship a chance. Too bad for him if his indecision ruins everything.