Does he love me or doesn’t he love me? If only the answer to that question could be found using the petals of a flower… Then our lives would be so much easier. But it isn’t.
Many of us have our own interpretation of the concept of “love”, what exactly it should look like, how it should feel… Scientists like to call this feeling affection, romantics and writers talk about “something sublime”.
Love is complex
The thing is, love is complicated. A man may say he loves you, but that doesn’t mean he really feels it. In other cases, he may not talk about his feelings at all and be madly in love. And most attempts to find out the situation directly from him can end in failure and sow distrust in your relationship. What to do then?
The way he looks at you
He looks at you like you’re a fairy, like he can’t believe you exist. He might even tell you directly, “I can’t believe a person like you exists.” This is not lust. It is love. He himself feels a calm, inner peace and awe with you. This person belongs only to you and to no one else.
Love is giving
True love is giving, not taking. From birth to adolescence (and some much later) children take and adults give. Any parent will tell you that you will never know true love until you have a child, and that’s because love is first and foremost about giving.
When you truly love someone, you want to give them everything you have. It is not about material wealth. You want to give the best you have to make the other person happy.
You are his or her top priority
Everyone is busy doing something. We all have jobs or we are studying and other obligations. When a man loves you, he will prioritize spending time with you. And if he is really very busy, he will definitely let you know on time. When a man loves you, you become the most important person in his life and he will definitely find time for you.
He wants to immerse himself in your life
He wants to meet your family, your friends, get to know them and make a good impression on them. Let him know about your hobbies and “join in” with those aspects of your life as much as possible.
You are the object of his attention
He notices what others don’t see in you (maybe even what you don’t see in yourself!). How you communicate with others, how people feel your presence, how your mind works, how you express your emotions. By paying attention to even the smallest details, a man remembers them.
Your happiness is as important to him as his own.
Even more than that, your happiness may be much more important to him. When you truly love someone, his happiness is your happiness too. This is especially true for men who feel they can make a woman happy. If you tell him that something he does makes you unhappy and he keeps doing it, it’s a sign that he probably doesn’t love you…
He misses you
Often men fall in love with a woman in her absence rather than in her presence. A man can give you all the warmth in the world when he’s with you, but what happens when you’re not around him? Do you miss him? Does he make an effort to see you as often as possible, or is he constantly looking for excuses that he’s too “overworked”?
Does he keep you up to date on the things that are important to him?
When a man loves you, he starts sharing his plans with you even when it’s not necessary. You are the most important person in his life and he will always demonstrate that to you, even unknowingly.
He will always help you in a difficult situation
Yes, that’s right. He’ll definitely be there, even if it’s extremely inconvenient for him. If you’re in trouble, a loving man will always do his best to help you.
You don’t doubt his feelings – you just know he loves you
There are situations when words mean nothing. But burning, true love is always visible to the heart! Both for you and for everyone else around you!