You’re most likely afraid of vulnerability, losing control, and physical contact. You get attached pretty quickly to men you like. You open up too quickly – but to the wrong people.
Do you still fall in love with men who don’t love you back? Who doesn’t share your feelings? You keep seeking these relationships without caring about the people who care about you. Ultimately, the whole situation does you more harm than good because you’re the only one who suffers in the long run. But what’s going on?
Here are five reasons why you keep falling for men who don’t love you back:
You’re not really in love.
You like the idea of being in a relationship. You like how it makes you feel. You like people seeing you with a man. You romanticize everything… but is that what love is?
Love is a decision. Love is an act. Love accepts people as they are but hopes to see them struggle to become their best version. Love is sacrifice. Love is patience, kindness, and honesty. Love has no room for resentment, no room for envy, no room for hate.
Love is calm. Love comes gradually… with time. Sometimes we confuse love with lust – but lust is a strong physical contact desire for someone that can short-circuit the brain. True love is unconditional.
You keep recreating unhealthy relationships where you feel comfortable
If you’ve had a colder relationship with a parent, then how you view love might be wrong. Relationships where you are rejected, make you feel safe. Why? Because you have to fight for love. Because you have to do a lot of things to get attention.
If someone loves you quickly, it becomes tedious for you. It feels too easy. Instead, you want passion and pain. You want games.
You don’t love yourself.
You want so much to be loved by others because you don’t love yourself. Instead of focusing on the wounds in your life that need healing, you get attached to others and distract yourself. More often than not, when you’re with the right man, you sabotage the relationship. You change your behaviour and do things that prevent you from getting what you desperately want: love, honesty, maturity, deep connections, and trust.
You’re most likely afraid of vulnerability, losing control, and physical contact. You get attached to people you like pretty quickly. You open up too quickly – but to the wrong people.
Learn to work harder on yourself so that you come to love yourself and realize you truly deserve more.
Afraid of being vulnerable, of losing control
You’ve built massive walls around your heart. You want to love but don’t want to be hurt anymore. Unfortunately, there will always be a risk that the people we love will leave us. Loss can happen through death, separation or different paths in life.
Most likely, you fear vulnerability, loss of control, and physical contact. You get attached to people you like pretty quickly. You open up too quickly – but to the wrong people.
You like the idea of being in love, not the idea of being in a relationship.
You fall in love with men who don’t love you because you like games. You want commitment, but you also want a lot of freedom. These conflicting ideas come from avoidance and thoughts about not deserving more. You avoid the uncomfortable feelings that arise when you’re alone with yourself.
You use love because you’re addicted to it – but you don’t feel like keeping it with you daily. You’re afraid of commitment and tell yourself you can’t handle it. But by working on yourself, you’ll learn that a real relationship is lovely and in time, you’ll embrace the thought of commitment and receiving love.