Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt like no matter what you did, your partner would always criticize you? Criticism is different from advice and it’s important to understand the difference between the two. For example, being late all the time is not a good habit: it affects your work and personal relationships. Most people won’t like this trait. But everyone makes mistakes, and everyone has qualities that are worth working on a little. Of course, if you’re 15 minutes late for a date and don’t give an explanation, that sucks. But if your partner, instead of asking you what happened and listening to you, without thinking, immediately jumps on you and starts criticising that trait, you have a real critic on your hands.
A critical person has a negative to say about your every move.
A critical person does not try to understand the circumstances that caused you to make a mistake, they are not empathetic, they bring a strong venom into a relationship. Instead of criticizing someone’s behavior, he attacks his partner’s personality. Instead of helping you get rid of your bad habits, he rubs it in your face over and over again and makes you feel like you’re not good enough.
The passive aggressive
We all know this trait, and it’s probably one of the worst things that can happen in a relationship. Whatever you do, there’s always the fear lurking inside you that, ironically though, you’re going to be singled out.
Imagine you’ve done something that has made your partner very upset, but you don’t know exactly what it is. You ask him or her, in order to solve the problem so that it doesn’t happen again. But instead of an answer, your partner just says that everything is fine. But it’s obvious that he’s not, and in fact he’s clearly offended.
Passive aggression is when your partner sends you hidden messages to let you know that something is wrong, but when you confront him, you can’t get him to talk.
Passive aggression is a form of anger. It’s no use wondering what the problem is for hours. As long as your partner doesn’t talk, but makes you feel that something is wrong, it will be difficult for you to come to an agreement.
A narcissistic partner thinks of themselves as perfect at everything and lets you know it. In addition to passive aggression, narcissism is also considered a personality disorder. The narcissist puts himself first and looks down on you.
You may feel that you have to compete with such a partner. Such people are difficult to compromise with, they don’t want to understand what is going on around them, and they show no empathy for anyone or anything.
The key is to put them at the centre. That’s why it’s no surprise that they often put you in a bad mood on a special occasion, your birthday, or when you get promoted, for example. Because they can’t stand it if it’s not about them.
But narcissistic people don’t really like themselves. This often makes them angry, upset, and their self-confidence wavers. They can destroy everything around them if they are hurt.
Some people can’t get anything out of them with pliers. These people will not share their thoughts, their feelings, even in a crisis situation. Unfortunately, this kind of communication can have a negative impact on a relationship. Worst of all, you often start blaming yourself for not being able to get your partner to talk.
In a relationship, it’s important to be able to talk clearly and honestly, so if you’re experiencing this, it might be a good idea to rethink your relationship.
If your partner doesn’t answer your questions, it will be on you. You will feel angry and frustrated as you don’t get even the slightest attention from your partner. And disrespectful to you, by the way.
Among the traits of antisocial people, you will find the characteristics of sociopaths and psychopaths: impulsiveness, tantrums, lack of empathy.
Although sociopaths and psychopaths are considered clinical cases, many people have this tendency. Such partners are psychological chameleons: they are able to change their personality to adapt to the situation. money or self-confidence, not a relationship. Many do not recognise their partner’s antisocial tendencies until it is too late. When they’ve been deeply scarred by them. A psychopath loves control, power, but is very good at hiding these desires.
If you recognize your partner as any (or more) of the above types, think carefully. There are situations that it’s advisable to get out of as soon as possible. But if you want to stay, you have to learn how to deal with the other person without completely destroying yourself in the process.