Going on vacation with friends when you’re a couple is not a crime, quite the contrary! Even more so if you live together! You are doing your couple a favor by taking a few days away from your partner… But be careful, there are rules to respect!
Why I go with my friends
It’s now been five/six years since we introduced this with my darling! Every year, we go away for a week without each other, each on our own with our respective friends. Living together for more than seven years, we see each other every day of the year and it is good and healthy to do things on our own as well!
Why is it good and healthy to do things on our own?
The first and main reason is that we miss each other! And, when we live together every day of the year, it’s hard to miss each other, routine takes precedence over the extraordinary and, even if we love our little habits, missing each other reinforces the desire! Every time we get together, we have a lot to tell each other, and most of all, we are happier than ever! It’s as if we rediscover each other for several days.
The second reason is that it feels good to be among friends! We do not necessarily do the same things as in couple and it is also a breath of oxygen. For my part, I just came back from a week in Madrid with two excellent friends and we partied like never before, we laughed, we visited museums, we walked a lot and didn’t stop chatting about everything and nothing! My darling was with his band of friends in USA, at the seaside and also did a lot of different activities with his buddies.
During these periods of “cut” I try as much as possible not to give too much news (one or two SMS per day / two or three calls per week) to really create the lack. It’s like a game after all. A game where both partners are winners every time!
What are the rules when I go on vacation with my friends while I’m in a couple?
We’re talking about a vacation, not a break! Here, the idea is to have fun on your own, but it is obvious that you do not go on vacation to go out and flirt (even if your girlfriends are single, in this case, arrange things for them).
Be clear about how and how you want to communicate once you are apart, it is important so that neither of you feels frustrated or abandoned.
What is also important, even if it is not always obvious, is to leave the same week! Otherwise, if you don’t leave at the same time you will find yourself two weeks apart and it’s really less nice to be separated when you’re waiting for the other one, alone at home.
Don’t go away for too long, 10 days maximum, otherwise it might become difficult and you will have less fun with your friends!
And of course, plan a romantic trip at least as long as the week you spent with your friends!
