Unlike women, men determine their attitude to a man by evaluating his objective qualities. With women, it’s not like that – objective qualities can be just a pretext, psychologists say. Very often it even happens that a woman makes up the missing qualities of the man she is in love with. A man’s love usually unfolds according to two scenarios. The first is when he immediately falls in love with the woman. This can happen if, for example, a woman is very attractive to him in appearance. The second scenario develops over a longer period of time and its main characteristic is that the man falls in love with the woman gradually, and sometimes this can even take several years.
How to help him fall in love with you forever?
Here are three steps that will bring you closer to your goal.
Show value
In order for a man to fall in love with a woman, she must initially have at least some value in his eyes. If she’s attractive enough, then he doesn’t need anything else to fall head over heels in love with her, it’s just enough that she herself doesn’t prevent him from doing so.
If the woman doesn’t particularly resist, then the man will be madly in love within a few weeks of the communication beginning.
And if you don’t feel attractive enough? Then what – are you going to be alone all your life? Of course not. It will just be important to make a little more effort to get the man’s attention, but under certain conditions he will lose his mind over you again!
Show your value to the man through your ability to take the initiative. Women are not very often willing to provoke contact with men on their own, so any lady who does will stand out favorably against the rest.
Create a feeling of insecurity
In order for a man to pay attention to a woman, he must have an incentive to captivate her. But that doesn’t mean she has to completely shut herself off from him. Not at all. Even in most cases, this will lead to a bad outcome – just the man’s attention will shift to another woman.
But if at the first stages of communication the man does not have complete certainty that a woman is up to her ears in love with him, then he will have an incentive to correct this.
It is very important to approve of the man’s behavior, to show him that he is doing everything right and moving in the right direction. But still he has to go through this path himself.
If a woman immediately confesses her feelings to a man, then his interest will most likely disappear instantly.
Build balance
Every relationship is governed by the balance of importance. That is, it lasts until the balance of significance completely switches to one partner’s side. This reminds us that each partner must contribute to the relationship.
If you have already managed to attract the man with something, and then completely take over all responsibility for the development of your relationship, the man will hardly appreciate it on its merits. Therefore, in order for a man to fall in love with you without a second thought, it is very important to make him invest in your relationship himself.
Relax! Not much effort is needed. Just slowing down a little is enough. You’ll see how he’ll start investing in the communication too. But at the same time, be careful not to go to the other extreme – to completely pass the buck on building your relationship.
The strongest relationships are usually characterized by a woman investing a little more in them and the man simply supporting and helping her, psychologists say. In this case, the balance of importance doesn’t fall on either partner’s side, and that certainly means the relationship will be very healthy.
